Everyone encounters fearful moments in their life. And each one of us have different triggers that will initiate a fear response. Now there are seven different types of fear. And what I want to go through in this particular blog is to explain what happens in our minds when we encounter a moment that draws out that fear and also explain what are the different types of fear. And more importantly, what is it that we can do to dissolve the fear? And why does fear show up in the first place in our life?
Well, if we don’t handle our fear, what happens is we can’t think straight. We can’t look for alternatives or solutions or opportunities that might be around us. We get paralysed by that fear in many cases. And ultimately what’s happening is that we’re not operating from the Executive Center part of our brain and we’re out of equilibrium.
Now, if you’ve read previous blogs, you understand what I mean by being out of equilibrium. So when we’re not operating from our Executive Center and we’re operating out of equilibrium, meaning we’re not connected with our Unconscious and ultimately we’re not connected with the SuperConscious, that’s where we can’t find opportunities. We can’t find alternatives or creative ways of getting out of our particular situation. So that’s what happens when fear shows up.
But ultimately there’s something that triggers from an event or a moment in our life that will trigger that fear. Now you would have heard people talk about, well, in a moment of fear, there’s two responses, there’s fight or flight. Meaning that we will fight against a particular situation or we will run away. But what I found is that there is another response, and that’s the response of freeze, meaning that we somewhat get paralysed in our moment of thinking. And therefore we can’t think straight from the perspective of how is it that we can get out of our current situation? So we’re literally paralysed, frozen in that moment in time and paralysed by that fear.
Now what happens is that our mind is operating from the amygdala side of our brain. And then what happens when we experience that fear is that the stress hormones start to build up in our body. Now, as the stress hormones start to build up, our body begins to contract. We will literally move to a situation whereby if you can imagine this in your own mind, whereby you’re standing straight and upright in yourself, and you’re feeling confident about yourself and your being, when we encounter a fearful moment, our body will literally start to contract. So we start to stoop. We start to move towards being in a fetal position. And for many people, when they’re in high levels of fear and anxiety, the body will actually move to the fetal position where they’ll curl up in bed or curl up on the couch in that fetal position and wanting just to make themselves smaller and smaller.
What also happens is our breathing starts to become more shallow. And we start, and I’ll use the term, whereby we build castles in our mind, meaning that fear or that anxiety starts to build up so much that we can build these amazing stories in our life of the potential of what can happen. So we start to build castles in our mind and they’re typically not good castles, they’re literally horrific castles because we fear the worst. We fear of what’s going to happen of what is the worst case scenario of what might actually happen. So that spiral starts to begin and bring us out of control.
Now because there’s so much emotion around the fear that’s building up, the fear becomes fact, meaning we manifest more in our life, which gives us the evidence to compound that fear and that emotion that builds up in our lives. So fear can become fact if we stick in that moment and that emotion of fear. Because when you’ve got the thoughts matched with the emotions and feelings, that’s what you’re going to make manifest. So that’s how we bring about more circumstances and more evidence in our life to compound and bring about more and more fear to show up in our lives.
So when we get triggered, fear starts to build. So what we need to do is we need to reset the brain. Now what’s the quickest way of actually resetting the brain? Well, if, as you remember what I said earlier, our body starts to contract. Now, if our body starts to contract and our stress hormones are circulating throughout our body, what we’ve got to do is literally get us out in that particular situation, reset the mind from that moment and get us into a much more Executive Center side of thinking, a much more creative, innovative, and opportunistic way of actually thinking.
So the fastest way of resetting the mind is through our breathing. Now there’s a technique that I give my clients whereby it’s a very, very simple technique where you inhale for five seconds and you hold that breath for five seconds and then you exhale for five seconds.
Now, the reason we’re doing this is ultimately to reset the brain. But after doing it, you’ll actually see and feel a difference in yourself physically because your body will be expanding because you have to fill your chest with that breath for five seconds and hold it for five seconds. Ultimately, what you’re doing is you’re expanding your physical body. So you can no longer be in the fetal position. You’re expanding your body to literally take over the full capacity of your lungs. And ultimately what’s actually happening is also in the brain is that there’s a whole load of activities going on in order to reset the brain to get you out of that fearful moment.
So the first exercise that we got to do is a breathing exercise. So what you do is inhale for five seconds, then hold that breath for five seconds, and then exhale the breath for five seconds and keep going for the five seconds, emptying your lungs from that breath.
You can do this exercise while you’re driving, while you’re sitting on a couch or doing an activity. When you do the exercise you will notice a difference in your mind, but also in your body as well. And it’s a very, very quick exercise to do when you feel fear coming and descending upon you. I also give this exercise to clients when they’re about to go on stage or they’re about to give a very important speech or about to go into a very important meeting whereby it just resets the brain and gets them settled and centered in their own mind.
Now, if you repeat that sequence, meaning inhaling, holding, and exhaling for five seconds, if you repeat that a few times, you will absolutely find a significant difference by just doing that very simple exercise. So my encouragement is that when fear starts to show up and you find yourself getting a little bit stressed, well then what you can do is go through that breathing exercise.
Now let’s look at fear itself.
Well, the definition of fear that I use is that fear is the anticipation of a future event that we perceive poses a risk.
Now, if it’s the anticipation of a future event, it means that it’s within our control, meaning the event hasn’t happened yet. So if it’s a future event, obviously it hasn’t happened yet. It’s the anticipation of a future event. It hasn’t happened.
Now the second part of that definition is that we perceive it poses a risk, meaning it’s in our thoughts, it’s in our mind, it’s in our thinking that it poses a risk for ourselves. Now it doesn’t eliminate the fear. It’s just a definition to understand that’s what fear is.
I’ll bring you through an exercise of what you can do to dissolve that particular fear, but understand it from this perspective. Fear is the anticipation of a future event that we perceive poses a risk. Now, the very fact that it’s a future event and the very fact that we perceive it means that we can dissolve it. We can remove that perception and therefore dissolve the actual fear itself in order to move ourselves into the Executive Center part of the brain and start working out ways and solutions of removing the triggers, but also removing the fear from our lives and the situation that we find ourselves in that’s causing the fear.
So let’s look at the different types of fear that actually show up.
There are seven types of fear and I’m going to go through each one of them for you. First of all, there’s the fear of failure. Now fear of failure is about that we’re not going to achieve the success that we want to achieve, that we had been looking forward to, that we wanted to achieve, that we had in our mind at some point in the future that we were going to achieve a level of success. It’s the fear of failure from that perception. Or it’s from the perspective that there’s an outcome that we were expecting, but we’re not going to get the outcome. Now there’s a fear that we’re not going to get that outcome. So fear of failure is about something in the future that we were holding onto, that we were looking to be rewarded with. And therefore we’re not going to get that anticipated future event or that future outcome. So it’s a fear of failure from that perspective.
The next one is the fear of loss of something. That can be the loss of money or time, the loss of our efforts, the loss of a relationship, the loss of property, for example. So whether it be a home, a car, jewelry, a watch, whatever it might be. So it’s the loss of something, or even the loss of our career or our reputation. It’s something that we’re holding onto that we fear the loss of.
The next one is the fear of not being good enough. And that can come up from the perspective of where we say to ourselves that, “I don’t have the courage to do something,” or, “I’m not good enough to do something. Who am I to stand on stage and give a talk about something? Who am I to write an article and, say, put forward my expertise, for example?” These are the kinds of conversations that we have with ourselves that brings about the fear of not being good enough, meaning we’re not intelligent enough. We don’t have the expertise. We don’t have the competence. We don’t have the appearance or the looks that we would like to have. We don’t have the knowledge or we don’t have the fitness, whatever it might be. These are all elements or pieces of it that come together from the perspective of us feeling that we’re not good enough to do something.
Then there’s the loss of the fear of loss of respect. And that can be as an individual, as a leader, as a business owner, a business person, as an entrepreneur. Ultimately what it means is it’s our standing in our business or our community, or even our family. So for something that might happen at a future event, our fear is that we’re going to lose the respect that we have or our standing within our community, our family, our environment, our business of what people will perceive of ourselves. So it is that fear of loss of respect.
The next one is the fear of rejection. So if it’s from the rejection of a partner or a staff member or a client, for example, or even a potential client, rejection from society or rejection from our community or from our family. It’s that fear again of being rejected by somebody or a group of people.
The next one for some people is the fear of death, or the fear of illness. It’s the fear of getting an illness and what that illness might mean to ourselves, of what will happen in the future. And what are the implications if we were to fall ill, or if we were to die, what would happen to our family or our siblings or the people that we’re responsible for. So when we start to concentrate and focus on the fear of death or the fear of an illness, it’s that kind of scenario that we start to build within ourselves, what might happen?
The last one, then out of seven is the fear of breaking rules. So they could be rules of society. They could be religious rules. For many, many years, people had a fear of breaking those rules that were laid down by church or laid down by religion. There’s the political rules, there’s rules of moral code that we adhere to. And even if you look at the current situation by way of the pandemic with COVID-19, the fear of people breaking the rules associated with COVID-19, of the restrictions and all those kinds of things, it’s that fear that can build up with other people, within ourselves.
So they’re the seven different types of fear, the fear of failure, the fear of loss of something, the fear of not being good enough, the fear of loss of respect, the fear rejection, the fear of death or illness, or the fear of breaking rules. They’re the different types of fear. But what is it that we can do to dissolve the fear when it shows up in our life?
Well, a lot of people would say, and you may have read about this in books or publications or articles – “Well, feel the fear and do it anyway.” Now for me, when I looked at that and tried it, it didn’t work for me because ultimately for me, and in my mind I was saying, “Well, it doesn’t remove the fear. It means that we’ll just have to step over the fear and do it anyway, but it doesn’t remove the fear. It doesn’t remove the trigger. It doesn’t remove the cause of the fear itself.” So for me, it didn’t work. And for you, you might say, well, there might be some situations whereby it does work, but in other situations it doesn’t work.
Then there’s the other cliches of, well, fear stands for false evidence appearing real. And yes it does, meaning that, yes, you can use it as an acronym and therefore just get on with your life or just get on with things and therefore a statement that it isn’t real. And yes, as I said earlier on, the definition of fear is it’s a perception of a future event. So therefore, yes, it’s true in its essence. However, it still doesn’t remove the fear. It doesn’t dissolve the fear of what we have to deal with.
And other people want to say, just think positively, don’t think about the fear, just think of its opposite and just get over yourselves and just get on with things.
Now, while that might make sense in some circumstances, it won’t, again, deal with the fear and ultimately what it’s also not doing, it’s not bringing it back into equilibrium. And the whole point of what we want to do is operate from the state of equilibrium. Because when we’re operating from a state of equilibrium, we are objective. We’re seeing both sides, but also we’re operating from the Executive Center with the Unconscious and to the SuperConscious. And that’s how we make manifest and how we bring about the things that we want to have within our life. So just thinking positively is taking us out of equilibrium state because it’s not being objective. So while it might deal with a particular situation at this moment in time, it’s not going to ultimately solve the underlying problem or the underlying trigger.
So if we were to dissolve fear, well then what is it that we need to do in order to dissolve the actual fear?
Well, we’ve got to work with how the brain works. Now our conscious mind is thinking, as I said earlier on, ultimately what it’s doing is it’s building castles in our mind of the worst case scenario of the worst things that could happen, and we get attached to that outcome. So if that how our conscious mind thinks, then we need to work with how the conscious mind thinks. And how we do it is we look in an objective way, meaning we get our mind, our conscious part of our mind, to operate in a different way. How we do it is to think objectively. How do we do that? We ask questions. That’s literally what we do.
In order to do this, there’s seven questions that I’m going to bring you down through in order to actually dissolve the fear.
Now, if you can think of the fear that’s coming up for you, meaning that if you’ve experienced a recent fear, whatever that fear might be, when you go through the list of questions, you’ll find that the fear will be dissolved. Then we have to also remove the trigger. That’s another part.
But I want to bring you through is the sequence of questions because it’s set in a particular way. And when you go through it, it will dissolve the fear from that perspective.
Now, the first question is, well, what am I fearful of? Now, when you’re answering that question, it’s what are you fearful of? What’s the worst thing that can happen? Or what’s the worst possible case scenario that could potentially happen if whatever the event is triggering that emotional fear coming up? So the first question is, what am I fearful of? Because that has to be a statement from the perspective of you’ve got to name what you’re most afraid of. Now, for some people that could be, well, I might lose my reputation, as I said if you go back to the different types of fear that I explained earlier on. I’ll lose my reputation or how I’m respected in society, or I could lose my house. It’s whatever the worst case scenario is for you, that’s what you’ve got to name.
Now, the next question is, so what’s the actual evidence that you have that makes these negative thoughts to be factual, meaning what’s the evidence that you have that makes these negative thoughts to be true? Now, when you look at that question and you start to think about it, and you start to look at it from the perspective of what evidence do I have right now in this moment in time, that’s going to give rise to “I’m going to lose my house or I’m going to lose my reputation” or whatever it is that you’ve answered to the first question.
Now, what you’ll find in every single one of those questions, meaning every single time you answer that question, what you find the answer will always be, I don’t have any evidence. There is no evidence right now at the moment. Because if you go back to the definition of fear, fear is the perception of a future event, so the event hasn’t happened yet. So therefore there’s no evidence right now at the moment to substantiate, to make that fear, to make that event the answer to you what you gave to the first question to make it absolutely true, to make it factual. So the answer to that question, question number two, is always, “I don’t have any evidence.”
But then you go onto the question number three. And you look, okay, so what is the evidence that I have that makes these negative thoughts to be false? Because then you start to look at and start to gather the evidence in your mind.
Now it’s a lot easier to answer these questions when you have somebody qualified to pull the information out of you, because our natural reaction is to say, “Well, I don’t have any evidence. I don’t have anything.” And you start getting back into building up that fear within yourself. And so if you’re to work through these questions with somebody that’s qualified to be able to do it with you, well then you will have a much, much better result.
But even just for now, just to start thinking about, the fear that you’re experiencing right now at the moment, ask yourself what evidence do you have that makes these negative thoughts to be false? What you’ll start to find, if you take, say for example, the scenario of, “Well, I could potentially lose my house.” And that’s the worst thing that you’re fearful of, when we start to look at the evidence to make that thought false, what we find is, well, we’re still paying the mortgage or we’re still paying the rent. We haven’t gotten any letters from the bank to say that the house is going to be repossessed. We haven’t received any information to say that, for definite, our house is going to be taken off us. We don’t have that evidence right now at the moment. So therefore it’s false.
So when we start to look and find the evidence that makes these negative thoughts to be false, we start to work from a conscious mind perspective, say, “Oh, okay. So we don’t have the evidence right now at the moment. So therefore there has to be an alternative way of thinking or in terms of way of moving forward.”
Now, if you move on to the next question, which is, what are the benefits of experiencing the circumstances I’m experiencing right now? Our mind will naturally be drawn towards all the negatives, all the drawbacks of any moment that shows up in our life. So our mind has built up all this evidence for ourselves of all the drawbacks. However, what we want to do is force the conscious thinking, force the mind, to start looking at what are the benefits of the current situation? Or what are the benefits of the circumstances that you’re experiencing right now at the moment?
And you may find a multitude of different benefits when you start to answer that question, benefits that you’ve never seen before. And when you see the benefits, ultimately what you’re doing is you’re bringing yourself back into equilibrium because there’s always both sides. There’s always positives and negatives. There’s always benefits and drawbacks. But the very fact of you asking yourself that question to identify the benefits, now you’re bringing yourself back into equilibrium.
The next question is, how is the current situation serving you towards your purpose? Now, if you remember back in an earlier blog, I outlined how you actually find your purpose. Now, when you find your purpose and you know what your purpose is and you’re working towards your purpose, when you ask the question, what is the current situation, or what are the current circumstances, or whatever is happening in your life right now at the moment, that you’re seeing as being a fearful moment, or you’re seeing it as being a negative moment, start to ask yourself the question from the point of view of how is the current event or the current moment serving you towards your purpose? And when you start to look for that evidence, what you’ll find is you’ll be drawn, or driven towards doing something that’s getting you one step closer to your purpose. It’s moving you away from what you were doing in the past, or what you were doing before to move you towards fulfilling your purpose.
And that’s typically what I’ve found with every single client that I drill this down into whereby they find, what they’re doing is getting them to do more activities that’s completely and totally in line with their purpose. So now they see it as being a way of moving them closer towards their purpose, as opposed to moving them away from the purpose.
The next question then is, so what’s a more objective way of thinking about the situation right now at the moment? And the more objective way is understanding the law duality, that there’s always both sides. There’s positives and negatives, there’s benefits and drawbacks. So when we see that there’s both sides and we see that there’s a better way. Meaning even just from going through the breathing exercise, go through, identify, what’s the evidence in your life right now at the moment, and how is it helping you and guiding you towards your purpose? When we start to bring all that together in a more objective way, you’ll see there are a lot more benefits that can be seen, right now at the moment, that’s helped you in your life are serving you as you’re going forward. So it’s an objective way of seeing both sides, and that’s bringing you more into equilibrium.
And then lastly, the last question is, so what new learning or positive actions can you take from this exercise or from this moment? What’s the new learning or positive actions that you can take going forward? And that’s different for a lot of different people, whereby they may say, well, anytime a fear comes up, you’re going to go through the exercise. So they remind themselves of doing that exercise or they’ll set themselves a reminder in some shape or form whereby when fear starts to build up, they’ll do the breathing exercise. Or when fear starts to build up, they’ll go and answer each one of those questions, or they’ll partner with somebody, or ask somebody that’s experienced to pull the information out of them in order to ask the questions. And therefore they can dissolve the fear from that perspective. So that could be new learning. And a new learning might be in relation to whatever it is that’s moving you towards or getting you to do differently or to do more of, that’s what you need to do more of going forward.
So when you answer each one of those questions, ultimately if you’ve done it correctly and done it right, and you’ve done it thoroughly, what you’ll find is that fear will be dissolved.
But let me ask you, why is fear there in the first place? Fear is there as feedback for ourselves that we’re not in equilibrium or that we’re not living our purpose. Fear is a feedback mechanism. All the negative emotions and feelings that we feel is feedback to ourselves that we’re not in equilibrium or we’re not living our true purpose.
So when we bring ourselves into equilibrium, which is what objective thinking does, those questions that I gave you, when we bring ourselves into equilibrium and we’re living our purpose, well then fear doesn’t show up because we’re seeing both sides. We are completely in equilibrium and we’re totally connected. Equilibrium for me, as I said earlier on, equilibrium is where we are connected with our Unconscious and we’re connected with the SuperConscious. When we’re in equilibrium, there is no fear.
Now, yes, is fear going to show up at some point in the future? Yes, when we’re out of equilibrium, but ultimately there may be a trigger that we haven’t dissolved as yet. And when we dissolve the trigger, well, then the fear won’t show up going forward. Now, the type of fear that you experience, meaning, remember I said that there’s seven different types of fear, the type of fear that you experience is your feedback to say that you’re attached to something. So if, for example, it’s a fear of losing your money or it’s a fear losing your house, or it’s connected with, for example, your reputation or your ego, it’s your attachment to something. And that’s also bringing you out of equilibrium.
So what has to happen is that we have to dissolve the attachment, because if you remember back to one of the previous blogs, what I spoke about was that in The Executive Code, picture this in your own mind, if you can imagine you’ve got one circle whereby it’s your Executive Center connected with another circle, your Unconscious, and then connected with another circle, which is the SuperConscious. So ultimately what you’re doing is you’re trying to make yourself in equilibrium between each one of those circles.
As soon as you’re attached to something, whether it be money, whether it be your relationship, whether it be your ego or reputation or something, it’s bringing that pendulum out of equilibrium. So what we’ve got to do is we’ve got to dissolve the attachment as well as the trigger that brings up the fear.
So what we need to do ultimately, when we’re trying to dissolve fear, first of all, is to reset your brain. And how we do that is by our breathing exercise, the one that I gave you earlier on whereby we breathe in for five seconds, we hold it for five seconds and we exhale for five seconds. That resets the brain very quickly.
Then we have to identify what is the fear, what is it that we’re most fearful of and we’re going to then go through the process of dissolving that fear. And we do that by the objective thinking questions exercise. And then we have to identify the attachment of what we have that’s bringing up that fear whereby we’re not being in equilibrium. What is it that’s bringing you out of equilibrium? And what’s the trigger that’s causing that fear to show up in the first place? When you get that information and you start to dissolve the trigger and the attachment, then it’s no longer going to show up in your life.
So what I would encourage you to do is the next time fear starts to show for you is to go through that process for yourself, because ultimately what you’ll find then is you bring yourself back into equilibrium, and then you’ll be operating from the Executive Center, with your Unconscious and into the SuperConscious.
So that’s how we actually handle fear.
In the last blog I talked about some of the symptoms that show up in our lives when our unconscious mind is trying to get us to correct our course, or to get us on the right track for us to be in equilibrium, for us to be on our purpose. And I spoke about a sense of what the space of moving from a state of Belief to a state of Knowing is like, that we’re being drawn to something new, to something new in our life, to a new way or new direction for our business, our life or our career.
It’s this sense that as we move from the state of Belief to a state of Knowing, that a lot of different symptoms start to show up in our lives. I discussed this in the previous blog.
But I want to drill down a little more again further between these two states – the state of Belief and the state of Knowing. Now, what shows up in people’s lives as we’re moving between these two states is what I refer to as Choice Points. It’s these choice points that the feathers, the bricks, and the trucks show up in our life. And as I said on the previous blog, if we listen to the feathers, well, then life becomes a lot easier. However, if we don’t listen to the feathers, the bricks come along, and the bricks are a little bit more subtle than the feathers. We would prefer if the bricks didn’t show up. And again, if we don’t listen to the bricks, well then unfortunately the truck does come along the way and believe me, we don’t want the truck along our way.
I use that as an analogy to explain the different nudges or the different ways of how our unconscious mind is trying to show up in our life for us to make a decision. And ultimately it’s a Choice Point. The terminology that I use is it’s a choice point in our life. Now, we can have many choice points throughout our whole life, but some choices are an lot easier to make versus others.
And in the last blog I also spoke about the sense and feelings when you’re moving from a state of Belief to a state of Knowing, is this sense that you’re at a crossroads. That could be a four-way route or it could be a two-way route or a three-way route. It’s literally those crossroads that show up in people’s lives. So it can be quite confusing for a lot of people. Now, you would have gone through a multitude of choice points throughout your life right up to this point, but they may have been easy choice points to make. You just saw it at that time as being just a choice. You got to make it, and you just take the choice and you move forward.
However, for a lot of people, what happens in a particular time as we move throughout our life and the challenges become a lot more difficult, on top of that the choices become harder to make. That’s when it becomes, “How do we actually make this choice? Am I going in the right direction? And if I make this decision, is it the right decision to make?” So let me explain some of the elements that show up in people’s lives and for you to consider, if you are at a particular choice point or you may be able to recognize previous choice points.
What happens is, as I said, that the feathers, the bricks and the trucks show up in our life. If we still don’t listen to the feathers, the bricks and the trucks show up, and if we still don’t listen to the trucks, then everything is stripped away. Now, what I mean by everything, it means that anything that is most important to us and most important in particular to our ego, because our ego is at its maximum or at its highest, when we’re in a state of Belief. Whatever has the biggest impact on our ego will be stripped away. How that shows up is meaning that relationships will literally fall apart, our business will completely decimate. Not just have a major impact, it will be completely decimated. Our health will have a significant impact that we may not even overcome, that we will have to live with that health issue for the rest of our life. Our major finances will be completely stripped away.
These are…a higher level of truck, if you want to call it from that perspective, if we’re still not listening to what we’re being guided to. Now, all of these, whatever the trigger is the most that’s impacting on the ego, is the one that will be stripped away. If that’s not listened to, it will continue to ripple out to the rest of the elements, and if you can imagine multiple triggers happening. So ultimately what’s actually happening is the unconscious mind is trying to strip away or to move you away from your conscious thinking. To move you away from your ego and for you to trust and to believe and have faith in your unconscious and what your unconscious mind is trying to guide you towards. It’s this inner knowing or this inner desire for you to move towards a much, much altered or different direction.
And the only way the unconscious mind can do that, if we haven’t listened to the feathers, the bricks and the trucks, the only way it can do that is make life so difficult that you have to make a choice. That you now have to make a decision. Because ultimately we can go through our life and we can have the sense that we’ve got to be doing something different. We’ve got to be doing something different, we’ve got to change our business and go in a different direction, or you’ve got to change your career or go in a different direction. But we just don’t make the decision, we don’t change anything. We have this inner sense that we should do, and we want to, and we have desire to, but we don’t change anything. And we again, we just continue going from year to year to year on that treadmill, on that hamster wheel, continuing doing exactly the same thing as what we’ve always done.
So the only way if the unconscious mind is not getting your attention to make a decision, literally is to strip every single thing away from your life. But what it does is it starts at the highest trigger of what that is for you. For example, if finances are the highest trigger for you, meaning that as soon as your finances start to deplete in your business or your bank account, and you start to worry and have fear and anxiety around your finances depleting, ultimately what’s happening is that your unconscious mind is trying to get you to make a decision or to make a choice of what it is that it’s getting to.
Now, how you’ll identify this even further, because I see this happening in businesses more particularly because obviously I work with a lot of business owners, but I see it happening in business. But what happens is they continue doing exactly the same activities, but still the financial health of their business does not improve, because they’re still doing what they’ve always done.
Now, if that happens and you’re doing all the different things that you’ve done in the past by way of all the things that worked, whereby what you’ve done in terms of marketing or advertising, or gotten out there to try and bring in more business into your business to increase your turnover, and it’s still not having an impact on your finances because whatever shows up, unusual expenditure starts to happen, or other costs start to come into the business by way of the business being sued or other clients disappearing or other customers or things happening within the business in order to suck those finances out of the business. Even though you’re doing a huge amount of activity by way sales and marketing in order to actually bring that business back in, if that’s the case, ultimately, it’s your identification to say, “I need to do something completely different.”
And the thing that you need to do differently is to listen to what it is that you’re being guided towards. Because I see this so many different times whereby they still continue doing exactly what they’ve always done, even though I’ve told them many, many times this is the path you need to go on and there’s a track you should be heading towards in order for you to reach your purpose. When they don’t do it or they take a long period of time in order to do it, literally their business will start to dismantle. They lose staff, they lose their turnover, they lose customers. You name it, all of that shows up because one of their highest triggers is finances. It’s only then when it’s all been stripped away or very nearly all been stripped away, that they then make the decision, “I need to do something different.”
And therefore they start to do things differently, of being on the right track, being on the right purpose and then lo and behold, the money starts to come into the business. Things have started to change because literally they’ve altered their course.
So, when that happens or how you recognize it, is those elements showing up in your life of what it’s impacting on your highest levels or what is the highest triggers that’s impacting on your ego side of things, because ultimately your unconscious mind is trying to get you to move from a state of Belief, into a state of Knowing. In a state of Knowing it’s moving more closer to a state whereby you’re allowing your unconscious mind to direct you more in your life. Ultimately in that shift, it’s your unconscious mind wanting to be expressed. It wants full expression in a shift between those two states.
So ultimately it’s going to get rid of everything that it needs to do in order for you to make that shift into operating more so from your unconscious mind, than your conscious mind. Now, ultimately what happens is, as I said at the very beginning, is a choice point. We’ve got a choice as regards, whether we go one way, or we go another way. We can continue doing whatever we’ve always done. And you know, the definition of madness, you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’re always going to get the exact same results. But in this case, unfortunately, you’re not going to get the exact same results, you’re actually going to get worse results if you keep doing what you’ve always done. The whole point is that you have to do something slightly different. And it ultimately is what your unconscious mind is trying to guide you towards. What is that slightly different that you should be doing?
Well I use the analogy of when you’re at this choice point of the boat and the pontoon. So if you can imagine a rowing boat and it’s moored up against the pontoon. So it’s this analogy that I get people to understand what’s actually happening in their life. So if you can picture in your mind’s eye, you got one foot in the boat and one foot on the pontoon. The pontoon represents safe ground, the pontoon represents your comfort zone. It represents what you’ve always been doing. It represents your career, your business, your life, how you’ve lived your life up until now. That’s what you know, you know it inside out. You’re absolutely safe on the pontoon. Whereas the boat, it’s a little bit unsteady. You have a sense perhaps of where the boat wants to bring you towards, but you don’t have an image or a direction or a satnav GPS of where that’s actually going to go. But you have a sense that it really does want you to step into the boat and guide you towards moving towards that new direction.
What happens while you’re at a choice point, for many, many people, is they have that one foot in the boat and one foot on the pontoon. And if you can imagine for yourself in the physical world, if you had one foot in the boat and one foot on the pontoon and the boat starts to move away, it would get very unsettling. So all the symptoms that I explained in the previous blog will start to show up in that unnerving-ness or that unsettling in your life of where should I be going? What should I be doing? Then all of a sudden, the pontoon’s not as safe as what it used to be versus I need to step into the boat. But for a lot of people it’s very difficult to step into the boat.
And how do I make that choice? How do I literally put my both feet into the boat and go in this new direction? So understand that that’s what it feels like. That’s what it looks like. That’s what a choice point is in trying to move from the pontoon into the boat. Now ultimately, what it’s trying to get you to do is to make a decision. It’s asking you, your unconscious mind is trying to ask you to trust it and to put both feet in the boat. Once you get in that boat and you now move towards your new direction of what it is been guiding you all along to do, of what you absolutely totally and utterly enjoy doing, have the biggest impact in doing, reach your fullest potential in doing, be living on your purpose and get the maximum fulfillment from, it knows all of this. It’s just asking you to trust it and get in the boat and head towards that new direction.
And it only happens when you make a decision. Now, by making a decision, it’s you literally, as if you were physically moving from the pontoon into the boat. A decision looks like you’re making a firm resolve to yourself as, “Yes, this is what I’m going after. This is what I’m going to do. I’m going to get in the boat. And that’s exactly the direction that I’m going to go.” Now, what happens as soon as you make that decision in your own mind, other things start to show up to check have you made that decision? Have you made that firm resolve because it wants to try and tempt you back onto the pontoon because that’s the conscious part, it’s trying to get you back to the comfort zone. That’s your ego wanting to play with you to get you back to what you’ve always known.
So other things start to show up in order to tempt you back out of the boat onto the pontoon. So the question for yourself is a firm resolve is actually no, stepping in the boat and heading in your direction and saying, “Oh shoot, do you know what, he world that you knew before is now left on the pontoon”. Other ways of looking at this, do you really want to… for you to make a really firm resolve for yourself is to burn the pontoon, like in your mind’s eye is literally burning that pontoon so therefore you’ve set it alight and therefore now the pontoon no longer exists. It’s gone.
Now, you’re now firmly in the boat itself. How you communicate that to the unconscious that you’ve actually made that decision is a firm resolve that says, yes, you’re committing to staying in the boat and going in the direction of where you’re being guided to. How you continue to communicate that message is you start to take action towards where you’re being guided towards. For many people, it is a leap of faith because that choice point can be such a choice point for them that it demands a leap of faith. Now I’ve heard this analogy before from a very successful business person, and what he said was, “As soon as you take the leap of faith, the parachute shows up” because you’ve always had the parachute, it’s been always there, you just don’t realize that the parachute is there. And once you take the leap of faith, that’s when the parachute starts to show up.
So when you step into the boat, you’re taking action and you’re moving towards that new direction for yourself. That’s making a firm decision. That’s making a decision at that particular choice point. How it’s a leap of faith is because fear starts to show up. Fear and anxiety because it can be around well, what about financial? Where am I going to get the money from? Or is this new direction going to give me the income that I need that I’ve always been used to? Or it could be an impact from a reputational perspective. Am I going to lose part of my reputation, what I’ve been known for? This is, up until now, this is what I’ve been known for. This is how I identify myself in the world. And therefore, am I going to impact the reputation that I have in the world? Or it’s a fear that we’re going to lose something, whether it be losing more finances or losing our business or losing our career or losing something in our life.
It’s that fear that actually shows up. But if you really think about it, each one of those fears is tapped into our ego. As I said earlier on, ultimately, what it’s trying to do is try to trigger your ego and your ego is trying to hold you back in that state of Belief and not wanting you to move into a state of Knowing. So that’s where that fear will actually start to show up. Now, on one of these blogs I’ll go through about dissolving fear, but I just want you to understand, first of all, this is what happens when we’re at a choice point and when we’re being asked to take that leap of faith and get into the boat and move towards where we’re meant to be, where we’re supposed to be.
What actually shows up then as well for other people is a question or a statement that comes open up when I have these conversations with my clients is, I don’t have the courage. I don’t have the strength or I don’t have… How am I ever going to achieve that? Or how am I ever going to go there? But ultimately what inwardly you’re saying is that you’re not good enough. You’re not intelligent enough, which again is another fear. So when you realize actually, do you know what, all you need to do is be more competent in what it is that you need to do in order to actually take the action, what it is that you need to do or the direction you need to go on, then that can be overcome. So courage can be built once we understand the underlying essence of where the question is coming from or where that fear is coming from.
If we still don’t take that leap that we’re being guided towards, and we’re still kind of between one foot in the boat and one foot on the pontoon, those symptoms will still continue to show up until such times as we’ve made a decision. So those symptoms by way of, as I spoke about in the previous blog, those symptoms of the restlessness, being defeating, being unfulfilled, the lack of meaning in our lives, the lack of motivation, lack of drive of where it is that we want to go, or that feeling of we’re just not reaching my full potential, those symptoms will continue to show up until such time as you make a decision.
Now, the question then I tend to get from clients is yeah, but I don’t know where I’m supposed to be going? I don’t know what direction I’m supposed to be going? Now I give them part of the elements of the image that I have for them by way of where their purposes is, where they’re supposed to be going in order to actually get them to take the steps or to guide them towards that path that they’re supposed to be taking.
For you, what I’m going to say is that the action that you’re supposed to take is the action that comes up. The more you listen, and the more you communicate with your unconscious mind, the more those actions, those inspired thoughts are going to come up. And those inspired thoughts create actions to be taken.
Now I use the analogy of, if you can imagine in your mind’s eye, whereby you’re driving down a country road, but it’s at nighttime. So if you can imagine that there’s no lights around whatsoever on this country road, and you have your headlights on, on the car, but there’s no road lights. There’s no streetlights because it’s completely pitch black outside, but you just have your headlights on the front of your car. All you can see when you’re driving that car down the country road is just a short distance ahead. You can only see a few meters ahead of you. That’s all you can see. So as you’re driving down, as you drive further and further down the road, all you can see is those few metres ahead of you as you move along the road, but you have a sense of where you’re heading. You have a sense of the direction that you’re supposed to be going. You have a sense of where you want to get to, but you just see a few meters down the road, because all you see is what the headlights show up for you.
When we’re at choice points and we need to take action of what it is that we’re meant to be doing, well then all we see is those few meters ahead. And what I mean by that is those actions, the first step that you need to take, that’s the step that appears. That next action that you’re supposed to take, that’s the next action that shows up. That’s the next action that you’re supposed to take. And even if there’s an element of fear, you take the action anyway, because you’ll always know the difference between a conscious thought and an inspired thought.
And perhaps I’ll explain that in one of the future blogs, but you’ll know the difference between a conscious thought and an inspired thought. An inspired thought, I gave you a few different examples before in previous blogs whereby you could be woken up in the morning or it literally pops into your mind while you’re doing something else, you haven’t been consciously thinking about it. But when an inspired thought comes up, the energy is very, very different. It’s a much more fun, lighter, happier energy. And even though there may be a fear attaching to that inspired thought because, Oh my God, I’ve never done that before. Or what am I supposed to do? Or how am I supposed to do it? That’s the conscious mind rushing in to try and work out how it’s going to do it, but the inspired thought at the very beginning was the piece of, Oh my God, this is what you’re supposed to be doing. That’s the next action that you’re supposed to take.
So even if there’s a fear attaching to the next step or the next action that you’re being encouraged to take from an unconscious perspective, know that it’s still an inspired thought or notice the difference anyway. In particular that it is an inspired thought. And once you know that it’s an inspired thought, understand that it’s the conscious mind kicking in for you to understand and to rationalize and how to make it happen that inspired thought or what action you need to take the planning or to work it out of what an inspired thought is.
So understand, yes, with inspired thoughts a fear can show up, but you’ll always only be given and encouraged to take the action of what you’re capable of taking at this moment in time. So when you’re at a choice point, whatever action that you’re absolutely capable of doing, even though the unconscious mind knows that you can achieve so much more, you can do so much more, it knows that it has a battle with your conscious thinking that it can only give you what the conscious mind thinks it’s capable of doing. So therefore, that small action that starts to happen or that small action that shows up, as soon as you take the action, those actions become bigger and bigger and bigger because really what’s actually happening is you’re getting to know and the courage and the competence in doing those particular actions that show up. So you’ll only be asked to do something that you know, or that the unconscious knows from your conscious perspective, it can take, and it can actually do.
It’s never going to ask you to do something completely wild that’s totally, utterly outside your competence level. So when it comes from that perspective, understand that it’s for you to take a firm decision, what’s followed is by taking action. Now some clients ask me when they’re in a business or if they’re in a job or a career, and they say, I can’t take that leap of faith because then I would have to give up my business, or I’d have to give up my job. I’d have to give up my career that they’ve built, they’ve spent so many years building and to be asked to either do something slightly different or something significantly different to what they’ve always been doing. But they know in their heart that that’s exactly what they want to be doing because the energy inside of them starts to light up from the perspective, “that’s really what I want to be doing. That’s my dream. That’s absolutely what I want to be doing.”
But the fear, holds them back. So the clients typically ask me, do I need to give up my business or do we need to give up my career in order to actually do what my inner desire of what I’ve been drawn towards? And I never ever, ever ask my clients to take that leap of faith, because they’ve got to present for themselves of when they’re ready to take that leap of faith. What I’ll do is I’ll bring about as much as I possibly can by way of dissolving their fears and ask them to take the smaller steps towards that bigger picture. So therefore their courage, or their confidence starts to build in relation to they’re going in the right direction. So I’ll never ask them to literally dismantle their existing business. I’ll never ask them to dismantle their existing career. What I ask them to do is work it in parallel.
So while you’re trying to pivot or while you’re trying to change that pattern, that course of direction that you’re trying to do, do it from a parallel perspective. So as you start to develop what it is that you want to do, as you start to bring about and make manifest what it is that you’re being drawn towards or what you’re being guided towards, that’s the conscious thinking that’s literally working out from that perspective is how do I literally plan out how do I work this from a parallel perspective? But when it comes from that piece, meaning the conscious thinking piece and you’re trying to work out well, how do we even do this from a parallel perspective, let alone taking a leap of faith and completely change overnight of what it is that you’re doing. Don’t go from a conscious thinking perspective, go from an unconscious thinking, because conscious thinking only knows black and white. It only knows based on past experiences, past knowledge, past learning from other people or other things or other moments or other events that it’s already gone through. That’s conscious thinking. So therefore the information that it has is only the information that it’s got knowledge of. It’s black and white, it’s finite.
So hand it over to the unconscious part of you and the unconscious part is infinite possibilities. And the more you align your Executive Center, with your Unconscious and to the SuperConscious, the more infinite possibilities start to show up. So what you do is you seek out those possibilities from your Unconscious. You draw them out, you draw them out towards you, of what it is that you should be doing by way of what are those next steps?
What are the actions that you need to be doing that’s in-line with your unconscious and in-line with the SuperConscious and therefore also in-line with your Executive Center? What are the actions you’re being drawn to? They’re the inspired thoughts. So draw that information out from your unconscious, not from a conscious thinking perspective, it’s two very, very different ways of thinking. But ultimately, as I said in the previous blog, what’s happening is, it’s trying to shift you from a state of Belief to a state of Knowing. And what I said in the last blog was that state of Knowing is absolutely surrendering and giving over to your unconscious to be guided by your unconscious to where you’re supposed to go. So the more you communicate with your unconscious and develop that relationship with your unconscious, the more you’re actually going to draw out in order to be given the actions that you’re supposed to take.
That’s how it works. It seems so simple. It is simple when you know how, but it’s so, so complicated for people to get around because they’re moving from a way that they’ve always worked to an absolute new way of being, a new way of working. So, that’s choice points. So understanding when you’re at a choice point, you’ve got to make a decision, and until such time as you put your both feet in the boat, that you firmly resolve in making that decision. And you’re taking action towards where that boat wants to go, where your unconscious mind wants to bring you to, it’s only good things that are going to happen, but for some people it’s about taking that leap of faith.
Now, all that shows up as I said was, all you’re going to see is a few metres ahead of you. That’s the car headlights when you’re driving down a country road. So whatever the actions that you are being asked to take right now at the moment, that’s what’s going to show up. The more actions you take, the more closer you’re getting to your purpose, the more closer you’re getting to your end goal of where you’re supposed to be. And therefore bigger actions will start to show up. And bigger and bigger ways of how it becomes about make manifest. Bigger ways of how you’re going to get the recognition, the reward, the impact.How you are going to make that difference in people’s lives. That’s what’s going to show up as you take the action towards where you’re being guided towards.
So the question I have for you now is, what are you being drawn towards to do differently? What is it inwardly that you’ve been drawn towards to do? So whether it be in your business, whether it be in your career, what’s that inner-feeling that you know you should be doing something different. And if you’re having those questions inside, that, you know what, I need to be doing something different, or what in your business, in your life, in your career, by way of making that difference or being guided on a much, much bigger purpose, but you don’t know what that purpose is, go back to previous blogs because I outlined how you find your purpose. But the next case is making a decision. Making the decision on the choice point and take an action on those choice points.
So what are you being asked towards to do? What are the next steps that are showing up for you? What is your unconscious mind trying to guide you towards, in order to take those next steps? And then you got to take action and take those next steps.
In the last blog, I talked about finding your purpose. Now, for some people, they feel that there is no purpose for them, that you just go through life, you do your job, your business, your career, whatever it might be, and that’s your life.
Whereas other people are drawn to a state of feeling that “No, actually there has to be something more to life. There has to be something more that I’m here to do. That there’s a reason or a purpose or a meaning for my life, to be here.”
And in the last blog I spoke about, well how can you find your purpose, and the techniques or the methodology that I gave are some of the elements of what I work through with clients. And it’s this methodology that helps people to find what it is that their true purpose is. What is it that best suits them? What it is that they’re here for? And what is their business or their career to be wrapped around what their purpose is?
And I also spoke about in an earlier blog, by way of the different States of Being that we actually go through, but there were two particular states that I want to focus on here. These are the state of Belief and the state of Knowing. And in between these two states, there’s a critical line that shows up or a critical threshold as what sometimes I refer to it as. And it’s when people are moving from the state of Belief into a state of Knowing that this critical line shows up, but it causes an inner anxiousness or an unease or a nervousness within the individual.
So what I want to go through in this blog are some of the elements that come up as a person is transitioning or trying to make sense of this transition from going from a state of Belief, to a state of Knowing, and then moving on to higher states.
And it’s this inner fight that goes on between wanting to hang onto the older state, which is the state of Belief, however wanting to move into the much higher state, which is the state of Knowing.
And I discussed some of the elements in previous blogs that show up in people’s lives as they’re making this transition, but I want to drill down a little bit deeper than that. What I explained was that it’s a bit like you’ve got one individual but the person is split in two. And one half of that person wants to stay in the old world of the state of Belief, whereas the other half of the person wants to move into the much higher world, which is the state of Knowing.
And it’s these two worlds that create this split individual within the one person. And what’s actually happening inside is that the state of consciousness or how the person has been operating for many, many years is fighting to hang on to the old world of how it worked and how it went around, how it did business, or how it did their career, or developed different things and brought about different things into their life. Whereas the other part of themselves is fighting and wanting to move towards a much easier way of doing things. So these two worlds are created by the sense of on one side, you’ve got conscious thinking. And then on the other side, you’ve got unconscious thinking.
Now, as I explained again, in previous blogs, ultimately what The Executive CodeTM does is working from the Executive Center in the brain to connect with the Unconscious mind and therefore also then to connect with the SuperConscious. It’s this unconscious part of us that’s taking in a huge amount of information and it’s helping to guide us throughout our daily lives.
However, the conscious thinking part of ourselves is trying to control everything by way of planning, by way of trying to figure out and work out a way of how it’s going to achieve going from A to Z or its goals or objectives or what it is that it’s setting its mind on. Now, this inner fight that goes on is literally trying to teach us and trying to guide us towards a much easier way of living, which is working from the unconscious mind.
So the more we try and control, and the more we try and plan and try and think about how things should take place is going to cause more angst within ourselves. And the more we surrender and pass over to being led by the unconscious part of ourselves, which is connected to the SuperConscious, the more we allow ourselves to be led by that part of ourselves, the easier life becomes.
Now, it’s a very, very difficult thing for people to get their heads around, but equally, it’s extremely difficult to operate from, because let me put it this way; you’ve been living a particular way for so many years and now you’re being presented with a way, “Well, how do I live in this completely different way going forward?” And ultimately it’s about changing our habits or changing our routines of how we’ve done things in the past.
So like with anything new, it’s unnerving, it’s unsettling. And there may have been things that you’ve tried to do in the past by way of trying to do something new, which has been unnerving and has been unsettling. And until such time it becomes a routine, it takes a bit of time and it takes a bit of practice. So what I want to help you with is to understand what’s going on inside yourself when you’re transitioning between these two states and ultimately understanding and recognizing the symptoms about where you need to be moving to or where you’re being inwardly guided towards.
So ultimately, it’s about forming new habits and a new way of doing things. You’ve been doing the way you’ve worked for such a long time, that it’s a case of, “Now, how do you create those new habits?” Or, “How do you create those new routines in your life?”
But let me put it this way. Let me give you an example. When in the past, you’ve been working on a problem and you’re consciously thinking a way of figuring out that particular problem, to find an answer, to find a solution. And for whatever reason, you just can’t work out what the solution is to that particular problem and you’ve been working on it for days, if not weeks, if not longer than that. And you still can’t come up with the solution to your problem, because you’re again, consciously thinking about it. But then lo and behold, you wake up one morning and as you’re brushing your teeth or as you’re having your shower or whatever it might be, you’re going through your daily routine, what actually happens is that you get an inspired thought into your mind.
And for other people, sometimes it can happen from the perspective when you get woken up during the night. Sometimes, typically between three o’clock in the morning and four o’clock in the morning. All of a sudden you’re fast asleep, but then you get awakened by this inspired thought. Ultimately, what’s happening is that the unconscious mind has been working on that problem and trying to give you the solution to that problem. Hence, the reason why it’s giving you that inspired thought as you’re going about doing something else that’s completely routine.
So this is just an example for you to get your mind around what it is that the unconscious mind does and how it works and how it communicates those inspired thoughts to yourself. So when you understand it from that perspective, then you realize actually, “Okay, so if you hand it over to the unconscious mind, well then we’re tapping into that amazing power of infinite possibilities in order to solve whatever problems that we’re actually trying to solve. But equally in order to actually bring about whatever our goals, our objectives are that we’re actually trying to make manifest.”
So if we were to stop consciously thinking and be led more by our unconscious, well then life becomes an awful lot easier. Now, most people will refer to this as being your gut feeling or your intuition. And there will have been times that you will have had that gut feeling or that intuition piece or that inspired thought. And the question for you is to determine, well, the times that you’ve followed those signals or those nudges or those gut feelings or those moments of intuition, those moments of inspired thought, the times when you followed it, what was the outcome?
I can pretty much guarantee that it was always for the positive, whereas the times that you went against your intuition, your gut feeling, had typically and I would estimate, have also led to the negative part. In my experience, any single time that I’ve gone against my own intuition or my own gut feeling, it has literally come up and smacked me across the face by way of the impact it would actually have if I didn’t follow my gut feeling.
So what I’m encouraging you to do is to look at how can you become more sensitive to your unconscious part of you. The unconscious part that’s bringing in so much more information to yourself and processing so much more information and how it communicates its message to you, to your Executive Center part of your brain, in order to guide you in absolutely every single thing that you do.
So when we’re in this moment of trying to figure out the old world of working our life and controlling our life from our conscious thinking part of ourselves, versus moving into a much different way of doing things, which is being led by our unconscious side or our intuition side or gut feeling, whatever terminology that sits best for you or how you best understand it or can conceptualize how it works; the more you move into that and the more you move from your conscious thinking into your unconscious thinking, the easier your life is actually going to be.
So that moment of where you’re moving from the state of Belief into the state of Knowing is that unease in between … It’s like moving between two different stools. It’s so different. And what shows up in our lives is this inner sense of restlessness, because ultimately what’s happening is our unconscious mind is trying to guide us towards something greater, something much bigger than ourselves. It’s our purpose, is what I described in a previous blog. And this inner restlessness is an inner feeling that, “Do you know what, what I’m doing right now doesn’t feel right. Whatever I’m doing right now in my business or my career is not what I want to be doing … I should be doing something different. Or there’s just an unease in what it is that I’m doing.” And you’re being led to do something else. You’re being led to explore a new avenue, different opportunities.
Now, it may not be completely radical. It may just be a slight change in how you’re doing your business or how you’re developing your career. And ultimately, it’s trying to guide you in a different direction. In some people, that difference can be huge in the sense of where it’s trying to guide them to. That can be huge, but in the vast majority of the cases, it’s actually very, very slight. So this restlessness that we feel inside is actually trying to guide us. If you were to listen to that feeling, it’s a case of you’re doing something right now at the moment, it’s not comfortable, so therefore let’s do something else to be more comfortable. So that’s how that feeling of restlessness starts to come up.
What also happens is we get a lack of focus or a lack of direction that if we look at previously in your life, there may be cases whereby you knew what you were doing in your business, you knew what you were doing in your career, you knew where you were going, what position you were going to go for, how much turnover you’re going to bring, how much products or services you were going to sell, all these kinds of such things. That was very, very clear for you in relation to the vision that you would have had for your business or your career.
But then in this moment where you’re moving from a state of Belief into a state of Knowing, that lack of focus or that lack of direction starts to come up, because we start to question where we’re going or what direction we should be going in. And ultimately, what we’re looking for is that image or that picture of where we should be heading, the new course for our business or for our career.
So a lot of people spend a lot of time in actually searching out what does that end image look like, or what does that end vision look like? Here’s the hardest part for a lot of people to get their head around. You won’t get that image for yourself. You won’t get that end goal for yourself because ultimately, what your unconscious mind is trying to teach you is to trust your unconscious mind and to know what it is that it’s guiding you towards and to literally just have complete faith in your unconscious mind guiding you towards that. If it was to give you a vision or an image or a direction or an end goal, well then the fun is taken out of it, which again I spoke about the game of life and the snakes and ladders in a previous blog in talking from the perspective of life is a game. The more we are given that end goal or that end picture, well then the fun is gone out of our game of life.
So that’s the reason why it doesn’t give an end image. And the whole reason is to get you moving towards, and to just surrender and to trust that you’re being guided every single step of the way. But the more you flick back to working from your conscious mind, well then the more things are going to be distracting, more unnerving, more anxious. So all those negative emotions will start to appear. The more you trust and have faith of your unconscious mind to where you’re actually being guided to inwardly, the easier it is for things to happen.
Another sense of a feeling that comes up is the sense that I’m at the crossroads. Now, whether in your mind you can picture a crossroads or whether it’s a Y junction, whatever that image is for you, but it’s this sense of an inner feeling of, “I either go down one path or I go down the other path. And it’s trying to decide which path I go on.”
And I’m going to talk a little bit about this in a future blog, but it’s just this inner feeling of trying to make a choice. And some choices are a lot easier to make, whereas other choices become a lot more difficult to actually make because it’s perhaps maybe having that leap of faith of what it is that you’re being guided to move into or what you’re being drawn to move into. So it’s just that sense of trying to make a decision or trying to figure out, “Well, what path do I take?” Or, “What’s the route that I should take in my life or in my business or in my career?” Whatever it might be, it’s just that sense of being at the crossroads.
Now what this can lead to as well is just a sense of being depressed or being that there’s, “What is the point in my life, just this meaninglessness?” It’s a sense of trying to find meaning in our life, but not actually finding it. And it’s a case of, “I’m not being fulfilled. What is the point in life?” And these are the kind of questions that start to come up as you shift from a state of Belief to a state of Knowing.
And in the sense of what’s the purpose, or what’s my meaning, why am I here, what’s the point of it or a wanting perhaps in some respects, trying to “check out” and just feeling of lack of motivation in what it is that you’re doing. And you could be working a business or working in your career and over a period of time, you say, “Actually, do you know what? I don’t enjoy what I’m doing anymore. I don’t get the same buzz or the same fulfilment or that same sense of that I’m making a difference or I’m getting meaning from the business or the career that you’ve been creating for either a number of years or quite a long period of time.”
Really what’s happening is you’re being shifted over to actually a different track and being asked to pivot your business or to pivot your career, to go in a different direction. And in that moment, when we start to question, “Well, what is it that I’m doing and why do I not get any fulfilment or meaning from what it is that I’m doing?” If we didn’t have those feelings, it wouldn’t cause us to change to a new direction, hence the reason why that feeling is coming up.
All these feelings ultimately are a feedback mechanism to ourselves that we’re not living in equilibrium. We’re not living in our purpose. We’re not living in the way that we’re meant to be living.
So all these emotions are literally feedback mechanisms to ourselves, from our unconscious mind to guide us in a new direction. What also tends to come up is this fear and this anxiety of, “What does the future hold and where am I going?” And again, those feelings and emotions are there to guide us in a slightly different line or different track. Other emotions that also start to come up is just this feeling of, “Actually, do you know what, I’m doing this business, I’m doing this career, but I just feel like I’m on a treadmill that I’m just going from day to day, to day to day. And all I’m doing is either just paying the bills or just doing what my business or what my career is and this feeling of just being on the treadmill or on this being on a hamster wheel” are again, the kind of things that come up between these two states of Belief and Knowing.
And it’s also one of the things that leads into that feeling of imposter syndrome, whereby we’re presenting to the outside world that everything is fine, everything’s great and we’re on top of things and we’re able to control everything in our life and everything within our business and our career, and we’re performing at our best. But inwardly, we have all these questions coming up in our life and showing up and wanting us to go in a different direction and to search out what it is that we’re supposed to be doing and where we’re supposed to be going. So that feeling of feeling like an imposter starts to show more so in between these two particular states. But ultimately what’s happening is that there’s an inner desire of wanting to make an impact. And you’ll see this build up within an individual where they look at maybe volunteer work or look to try and make more of an impact in other people’s lives.
It’s this guidance towards, we want to make an impact, we want to leave a legacy, we want to develop something for ourselves in order to make a difference and to be remembered in other people’s lives. And there’s this question that “I’m just not living my full potential.” And that we’re here for a much bigger reason that you’re here to literally achieve much, much more. And believe me, every single person that I’ve come across, there is so much more that they’re absolutely here to achieve. It’s just phenomenal what the potential is for them when I see their purpose, when I see the image of where they’re supposed to be. The potential for them is absolutely phenomenal. So it’s no surprise to me when I hear somebody coming to me and say, “I just feel I’m not reaching my full potential,” because the gap that I can see between where they are, either in their business or career, even though they may be massively successful in their business or career, the gap between that and the potential that they’re absolutely to achieve is phenomenal.
It’s just amazing what they’re being guided towards and what that image looks like from my perspective. When a person is going through this period of time, it’s a case of, they just can’t put their finger on what they should be doing. And therefore, those searching questions start to show up by way of, “What does the image of what it is that I’m supposed to be doing look like?” I can’t put my finger on it, but they’re guided towards something, something greater, but they can’t put a finger on it. And hence the reason why they do a lot of different activities and they read a lot of different books and go on different courses and travel around the world, trying to “find themselves” or find it, what it is that they’re supposed to be doing and waiting for somebody to tell them what it is that they’re supposed to be doing in their life.
It’s easy for me because I get those images for people, but for other people where they can’t get the direction for themselves, then that can be extremely unnerving. So they can go through long periods of time of trying to search for themselves of what it is that you’re supposed to be doing. And they still can’t put their finger on it. But in the previous blog, I explained a little bit more about what you can actually do to try and find that for yourself. And what is it that your Internal Priorities are saying, what is it that your Telso is, what your purpose is and so on. So these are ways that you can actually find that out for yourself. That’s very quick and very, very easy in order to actually get you that sense of direction for yourself. But these are just some of the symptoms that show up in people’s lives.
Now, when I’m working with my clients, and I actually explained this in the first book that I wrote, and first book called EVOLVE. And I gave the analogy of the feather, the brick, and the truck. Now ultimately what’s happening, I use this analogy because it gets the message very quickly across for people. Now, if you can imagine you’ve got a feather, and you can also imagine a brick, and you can also imagine a truck. So let me describe each one of them and ultimately what’s happening. So if you can imagine the feather, the feather is so light. If you imagine the touch of a feather, it’s so, so light. Ultimately, what happens is the unconscious mind is trying to give us nudges. It’s trying to guide us in a particular way. It’s trying to direct us in a particular way. And it starts off like the feather, meaning just those light touches.
Now, how it comes about in our life is that we get that inspired thought or we get ideas into our mind of what it is that we should be doing. And it can be just an action or just something that we maybe should be sending an email over to somebody, or make a phone call or some thought that comes in our mind saying that, “Oh my God, wouldn’t it be great if I did X in my business?” And then we just forget about those thoughts. We just either don’t take note of them, we don’t write them down, or we just ignore them and we just move on to something else. We just forget about them. So those feathers, those nudges that come as feathers can come as ideas or inspiration, or we could be having a conversation with somebody and the person passes a comment and something within ourselves lights up from the comment that’s just been passed.
And we just get this surge of energy within ourselves saying, “Oh my God, maybe I should be doing something there.” There’s something that they said that makes a difference for ourselves inwardly or internally. We could be watching a movie or reading a book or just in this group and having a conversation and whatever the conversation is taking place, something can happen within that conversation that gets a surge within ourselves to say, “Actually, do you know what, maybe I should take note of what’s being said, write it down or take action or whatever it is.” But again, if we ignore it, we just forget about it and we just move on throughout our day. But they’re so light that it’s like the touch of a feather.
Now, if we don’t listen to the feathers, the brick comes along. Now you can imagine, the brick is a little bit more subtle than the feather. Now the brick shows up in the format of a sickness. Now it can be a temporary sickness, we can get over it, but it can hold us back or impact us for a short period of time. It can be in our business. It could be the loss of a big client that we need a long period of time to recover from. There are some clients that we could lose within a business whereby it could take months and months and months in order to actually recover from that loss of income. And because of that, it actually stops us in our track, in what we’re actually doing. It could be the accident that literally has us laying down in bed or in hospital, trying to figure out and trying to just stop us in what we’re doing, so therefore we can’t do our business, or we can’t do our career building.
It’s literally, we’re confined to our bed, whether it be at home or in the hospital. And it’s those weeks or months that we’re actually just given the space to start looking inwardly and thinking and contemplating of a better life and so on. And these are just things that they set us back, but we can overcome them relatively easily. But it does leave a mark.
Now, if we don’t listen to the brick and we don’t listen to the feathers, well, the truck comes along. And believe me, in my experience in working with so many different people over the years, you don’t want the truck to come along. Because the truck shows up in the form of a divorce, a separation, a redundancy in a career whereby it’s been thrown upon us and we have to make a change. It’s that serious illness, that unlike say the accident or the previous sickness that we may have had before by way of the brick, this serious illness literally does stop us in our tracks. And in some cases, we can overcome it.
Or other cases, literally we have to live with that illness for the rest of our days. It could be the business failure. It could be literally everything is being stripped away from us and that’s the truck. It literally just stops us completely and firmly in our tracks, and we have to do something completely, radically different at that stage.
Now these are the three types of unconscious signals or unconscious nudges that happen in people’s lives. And I’ve seen this so many times as I’ve observed, and as I’ve worked with different clients over the years. So again, just keep in mind by way of, the feathers or the bricks or the trucks.
Now, I’m sure there are moments in your life where you have encountered feathers, bricks, and trucks and it would be good to remember each one of those that showed up in your life, and for you to recall and find the evidence in your own life and recognize, “I did have those inspired thoughts, but I never did anything about them.”
Or maybe you did get inspired thoughts. You did do something about them. And they turned out to be extremely fruitful. Or the bricks have shown up in your life and try to identify them. And if trucks have come your way, well then identify what those trucks are, and what was it trying to guide you towards or what was the change that it was asking you to do in your life in order to bring your path in a new way?
Now, when you followed them, when you followed the bricks and the trucks and the feathers, and you did take action from the inspired thoughts, well then I can pretty much guarantee that it did work out.
But when you didn’t, well then what was the impact? What happened in your life or what was the difference in your life when you didn’t follow those nudges? It would be worth to start to think about. And if there are any feathers, bricks, or trucks showing up in your life right now at the moment, what is it trying to guide you towards? What direction is it trying to bring you to?
Now, we’re all going through this COVID-19 pandemic right now at the moment, and I can absolutely say that the sense that I got from the very start of when this happened, in the first couple of weeks of when the pandemic hit was this sense that this is actually calling people forward to step into their purpose, to step up into what it is they’re absolutely meant to be doing. When I ran a webinar series and I said this in the first webinar, I expressed the feeling that I got from the point of view of this pandemic, while it’s having a major impact on everybody right across the world, my sense of it all was that part of what was coming out of the pandemic was it was actually getting people to step up into their power, for them to reach their full potential and to step into their purpose.
And the weeks that followed, the conversations that started to unfold and the conversations that I started to have with new people that were coming my way and the feeling of, “Where am I going? What’s happening in my business or what’s happening in my career?”, it was this inner desire for them to actually do something slightly different or completely different within their business or within their career. So for me, I saw this actually play out and happen by way of, it is actually asking people to step up into their purpose.
So when you look at your space right now at the moment and where you are in your business or your life, what is it that you’re being called towards? What is it that it’s asking you to change? And what has been that inner desire for yourself to do differently, to move towards something different.
And while a lot of us are working remotely or working from home or the new working remotely, while we’re in this space … for some people, they do get time out to say, “Actually, what am I doing? Maybe I should change things of how I’m doing things in either in my business or in my life or in my career.” It’s giving people that space to ask those questions and to contemplate on what it is that they’re supposed to be doing.
And before we all get back to, for want of a better word, the new normal and as I said, there is no such thing as a normal. But as we move back and into our lives again and things start to open up again, how different do you want your life to be?
And if you’re to listen closely to what those nudges are saying to you, what your unconscious mind is actually trying to communicate with you, it’s actually asking you right now at the moment, “How do you want your life to be different? How do you want your business or your career to be different? What have you suppressed within yourself that you wanted to express over many, many years but just haven’t had that ability to actually achieve or find a way of actually going after what it is that you’re being drawn towards?”
Ask yourself those kinds of questions. But next, once you’ve got a sense of what that new direction is for you, well then what is it that you need to do to take action? What are the steps that you need to take right now? Just those first few steps, what’s the action that you need to take? In some cases, maybe just reaching out to somebody or in some cases maybe, “Actually, do you know what, I need to change my messaging about what it is that I do in my business.” Whatever it is for you, whatever comes up for you, and the more you surrender and allow to be guided by your unconscious, the more it’s going to give you those inspired thoughts to give you what the next actions that you’re to take. But for some people, it holds them back. So the question I have for you then is, well what is actually holding you back?
And if you’re able to pinpoint what’s actually holding you back, once you can identify it, then something can be done about it, meaning an action or something can be done in order to dissolve what it is that’s actually holding you back. Because there’s no doubt you’re to step into your purpose. There’s no doubt that if you’re reading this particular blog and you’ve read previous blogs of what I’ve been guiding you towards and moving towards you stepping into who you are, stepping into your purpose, stepping into you absolutely achieving your full potential. If you absolutely listen to this, it means that your inner questioning is literally getting you to try and move onto a track for you. Your purpose. For you to live your purpose. For you to reach your full potential. For you to literally make manifest your full potential, whether it be in your business or in your career.
That’s what you’re here for. So what is it that’s holding you back? And when you decide, and you can specify and identify what it is that is holding you back, well then you can go about and dissolve it. Then you can go about getting over that obstacle of what you perceive is actually holding you back. These are just some of the questions that you can ponder for yourself. They’re very specific questions, but it’s important that you ponder on them and look for the inward answer. The inward answer, what I mean by that is communicating with your unconscious. Don’t consciously think about the answers to these questions, unconsciously summon up the answers to the questions, and the more you ponder on them and seek the answers to the questions, well then the more you’re going to be guided. And it’s taking that leap and that move towards that state of Knowing that will move you up to much higher states.
Have you ever considered what your life purpose is?
For some they see their life purpose as to get up in the morning – run their business – pay the bills – enjoy what their doing, their hobbies, their sports, their family – and then go back to bed. Only to get up the next day and do it all over again.
Day after day – doing the same thing – pretty much in a routine – work, play, rest.
And even if you don’t seek out finding a purpose for your life, can you imagine what your life could be like if you did have a higher purpose. A purpose much greater than yourself.
Then there are others that something shows up in their life, that triggers them to think – well what am I doing with my life. Where am I going. What’s the point of what I’m doing. There has to be more to this than just work, rest and play – right?
That’s when they’ve hit the critical threshold line that I spoke about on a previous blog.
They fluctuate between being consumed in their work – to contemplating the bigger questions in life – like what is the meaning in life, what is the purpose, what are we here for, what am I here for, what is the purpose of me being here?
And for them they search for what is going to bring them meaning in their life, purpose in their life – to find out what the big grand plan is for their life.
And this search can take years, a lot of navel gazing, and a lot of expense in books, courses, guides….or traveling to remote places to “find themselves”.
But even after doing all that they still come back to the same question – what is my life purpose.
What am I to do with my life?
If I only have one life, I should make it count. I should make it matter.
And for many it’s about a desire to make a difference, to leave a legacy – but ultimately that leads to an inner desire to be remembered. So that when we’re gone, people will still remember us. They won’t forget that we existed. That we meant something while we were living. That we won’t be forgotten.
And typically we’ll look to people that we do remember in our lifetimes. And we normally start with the well known people like Martin Luther King and his I have a dream speech. Or the Wright Brothers that flew across the Atlantic and landed in a small village called Clifden. Or Nelson Mandela for his resolve, his transformation and his way of being after he had been imprisoned for 27 years.
There are so many that we look up to as leaders and as people that have made a difference – both young and old – both male and female.
We still remember them. They’ve left a legacy. They’ve made their mark on the world. There’s still a part of them that is still here.
And then we might be drawn to the people that have been closer to our own lives – it could have been a grandparent, a parent, a sibling, a friend, a boss, a stranger. And there might be something that they said or did or somewhat that they helped alter the course of our life for the better – and we still remember the moment they had that impact. We can still bring to mind where it was, what they said, who was there, how it took place, and more importantly how it made us feel inside.
They made a difference in our lives. They had an impact. We still remember them. They left a legacy.
You see, it doesn’t matter how large or how small the difference was in terms of the numbers of people that we make a difference for, or that we’ve impacted, or that remember us – it’s the fact that we did.
That we took the time out to make that difference. That we decided that that’s what our life is about. That our intention was to make a difference for someone else – to make their lives better in some way.
There was a story that was told to me by one of my mentors
Imagine for a moment a picture made with mosaic tiles, a spectacular picture with hundreds of pieces, of all shapes, colours and sizes. Together, they make up the most amazing picture. As a complete picture, it’s beautiful and whole. But you then notice that one of the pieces is loose. So you go over and you take that piece away.
Now imagine the picture. It’s not so beautiful anymore, is it? You can see the space that has been left behind by that one missing mosaic tile. The overall picture doesn’t quite look right and the colours don’t seem to be as radient and vibrant anymore. It’s just not the same amazing picture as it was before, when all the pieces were there in their correct place. Even though it was a tiny piece that you removed, it has a dramatic effect on the beauty of the picture.
Although you may look at your life as being small, perhaps that you’re not making millions in your business or fighting the great cause of the vulnerable, one thing is for sure, no matter how small you feel in the world, you make a massive difference to how the world works. You have a big impact on the people you meet and interact with, even though you might not even see it at the time. Those small acts that you take for granted become tidal waves in this big amazing world of ours. Just like the missing mosaic tile, if you don’t play your part in the world, it won’t look as amazing as it could do.
So if we are all part of a bigger plan and journey, and we have a part to play in this world, how do we find out what that plan is? How do we find our purpose in what we are doing with our lives? How do we bring meaning and fulfilment to our lives?
Victor Frankl as you might know is a person that survived the concentration camp, when many others around him didn’t. And in his book, “Man’s search for meaning”, he refers to the fact that it’s the meaning we give things in life, that gives us meaning in our life.
Others speak about that you must first find your why – why you’re doing what you’re doing. And that if you find your why, then everything will transform from there.
While others talk about finding your passion, and this will lead to your life purpose.
And then there are those that say there is no purpose to be found!
Honestly, none of these worked for me. And they didn’t work for my clients either.
Firstly, there are a lot of things I’m passionate about, and the vast majority are not in line with my life purpose – for example my passion for red wine or my passion for all things flight related have nothing to do with my life purpose. What I have found, which is the opposite to conventional, is that passion follows finding your life purpose. When you’re on your life purpose, your passion grows and grows exponentially the more and more you are on your purpose. So there can be many people chasing their passions, in the hope that they will find their life purpose, whereas it’s the other way around.
Because ultimately what can be interpreted is that if we give enough of a meaning to something, then we can make anything our purpose.
But having an overriding meaning in real terms, that makes a difference, that compels us to be driven – is to answer a fundamental question for ourselves.
When it came to Edison – his overriding question was to find out how to use electrical current to bring light. The Wright brothers overriding question was to find out how to fly. Martin Luther King’s overriding question was how to have blacks treated no differently to whites. Victor Frankl’s overriding question was to find the answer to what would bring a focus to an individual so much so that everything else around them became meaningless and therefore drove them to keep living.
You see we all have an overriding question to be fulfilled within ourselves. But we then go about looking for the answer to the wrong question.
We look for the answer to the question of what is our life purpose – when in fact we don’t spend time to realise that there are other questions that we’re trying to find the answer to. That inwardly we’re driven to find the answer to. Which when we find the answer, will then make the difference for others.
Ultimately your overarching purpose in life is to be you, to experience, to live life fully, to love, to evolve.
Yet each and every word that I just said, has a much more deeper meaning than at first glance.
Our purpose in life is to be you, your unique you. To experience fully. To live life fully. To love and to evolve.
I’m likely to come back to these and what they fully mean in later blogs – as they are such critical messages.
Other than that, while others don’t believe we have a defined life purpose, I believe that we do have a life purpose. We have a mission to fulfil. And one that drives us forward to achieve it and one that brings maximum meaning and fulfilment to our lives.
How do I know?
Well, in the second blog I mentioned that I was the seventh son to be born in my family.
But let me reveal a bit more about myself which becomes relevant to when we’re talking about our purpose in life.
Yes I was the seventh son to be born in my family. But I’m also the seventh son of the seventh child, which was also the seventh child.
Now in Ireland there is a lot of mythology around the seventh son regarding healing abilities and the likes. But let me tell you some of how it is expressed for me.
There are two main things – since I was as young as I can remember, I had what I call knowings or downloads. And second I was able to pick up empathically what an individual was feeling deep inside themselves.
It’s these knowings and empathic feelings that gave rise to some of the causes for my depression and suicide ideation. Not all of it, but some of it.
Now how this worked in my favour was that while others referred to be as being really lucky and successful, I knew differently.
It has been the reason why I’ve had such a success rate in turning companies around. In fact I’ve turned around every company I’ve worked with.
But more importantly when I work with clients, I get, again what I refer to as knowings and downloads for my clients. Not all the time and not for every client, but for the majority.
And these downloads give me the information and the images of what is needed for my clients to be on their right path. To be on their life purpose.
The images I get of what they’re meant to do in terms of the impact and what they’re life is to look like, are mind-blowing. What I mean by that, is that they are so amazing.
And each time I get my clients on their right path, the results that they get and the difference it makes for them personally are amazing.
And there have been some clients that didn’t take on board the information I shared with them, and that’s ok, because that’s where free will comes into play.
But in the early years – I had to keep all of this a secret. After all it’s not something a client expects from a business consultant.
And being so highly intuitive has made it open to so much ridicule. And that coupled with the empathetic feelings I was picking up – was leading to a very unpleasant life.
And when I did describe the images that I received in the downloads and knowings to my clients – because they were so amazing in terms of the difference I was seeing them making in the world – their first response was that they didn’t have the confidence or the courage to do that.
So I had to learn a different way of communicating with my clients so as to make sure they were put on the right track for them, and also so that they wouldn’t get scared.
And on top of that I doubted myself so much as I questioned was it just my conscious mind making it up.
So part of the work and the research I’ve done over the years has been to discover ways of finding the evidence in peoples lives that would give them all the information that they needed to find their own true life purpose.
They might not see the end outcome or the significant difference they are to make in peoples lives, but at least they would be on the right track.
If I found the evidence, that evidence then became the breadcrumbs so to speak, for them to find their way home – home to where they are meant to be in life, to being on the right track, on their life purpose.
So what is it that brings meaning and fulfilment?
Well let’s begin with meaning.
You see, teleology is the study of purpose and meaning.
The highest purpose is what the Greek philosophers referred to as the Telos, or the “end in mind”. Or what I call your North Star.
This Telos or North star is what you are most inspired to fulfil.
Napoleon Hill called your highest priority ‘your chief aim in life’.
So whatever your highest internal priority is, you are inspired from within to fulfil. You are unconsciously driven to fulfil the most.
I spoke about your highest internal priorities on the previous blog. These internal priorities are unique to you.
When you marry your highest internal priorities with the overriding question you are seeking to fulfil, then you have your link, your connection to your life purpose. It’s how you achieve maximum fulfilment in life.
Let me say that again – your highest internal priorities are what you are most inspired to fulfil within. Your overriding question that you seek to fulfil the answer to, is your connection to becoming and fulfilling your life purpose.
When you are doing work that is in line with fulfilling that overriding question, and that is in line with your highest internal priorities, then you are most inspired to accomplish your mission. It is where you achieve maximum fulfilment. It becomes your mission in life to fulfil.
And as I said in the previous blog, when you are working in line with your internal priorities, then you are activating your executive centre the most.
When you are activating your executive centre the most – you are more creative, more innovative, more motivated, more objective. And when you are aligned with your unconscious and your SuperConscious, you are inspired more, and find it easier to discover the fastest, easiest and less costly way of achieving your purpose.
When you turn your life purpose into your career or your business, you are then building a legacy, making a difference, and impacting many more peoples lives.
And when your business or career is serving ever more increasing numbers of people, then that’s when you achieve the levels of success that others refer to as being success.
If we take Bill Gates as an example – his overriding question was how could he put the power of a computer into the hands of everyone around the world. His purpose and vision was to see a computer in every home.
Steve Jobs overriding question was how could he enable every person to display and demonstrate their own unique personality. His purpose and vision was to break the norm and not fit into the status quo and to put the power into peoples hands whether it be in terms of their computer, their iPod, their iPhone.
Find your unique personal internal priorities and your overriding question that you’re looking to fulfil, and you’re well on your way to finding your true life purpose and mission in life.
As the world prepares for a new normal, it’s fair to say that the mental health of everyone has had many challenges over the past three months. And while coping with change can be very difficult for a lot of people, we will in fact need to face more changes and more uncertainty in the months to come.
Will we return to normal, or a new normal? My wife once told me that the only “normal” there is, is the cycle on a washing machine!
And she is so right.
And while many people might be struggling on the inside, there’s the tendency to put on a “brave face” to the outside world – for our colleagues, our staff, our clients and our suppliers. And all of this tension can also lead to one feeling like an imposter – where we present a facsimile of a person that is coping, yet on the inside, the reality is very different.
There are many programs and initiatives for staff to help deal with mental health, fear, stress, anxiety, and depression; such as mindfulness, meditation, yoga, exercise, and many others.
But what about the business owners and the managers that in many cases, don’t get to avail of, or have time to benefit from these mental health initiatives themselves – what happens for them? What can they do? And more so than staff, they have to maintain that “brave face”. After all, they need to show leadership. They can’t be seen to be weak.
And how is it that some business owners and managers thrive, even in a challenging economic market, while others struggle?
Well that’s been part of my study for over thirty years while working with high-level executives and business owners; and what has been incorporated into what I call The Executive Code, where the science and research forms the most comprehensive and practical methodology available.
So where does one start?
Well, we are all unique. There is no “normal”. And with us being unique we also have a unique set of what I call internal priorities.
Let’s go back to the Greek philosophers.
Aristotle referred to the fact that each individual has an inner desire to fill what is empty in their life. What is most void in our life. We seek to fill what is empty, i.e. we seek to fill these voids. Many of which were created in the formative years of our upbringing.
The voids which are most empty in our life, we will unconsciously want to fill the most. In other words, we unconsciously prioritise these voids. And we unconsciously seek out ways to fill these voids.
When we fill these voids or this inner emptiness in our life, then we are filled. We are full-filled. This is how personal fulfilment is achieved.
So in order to obtain maximum personal fulfilment, we must fill our voids in accordance with the voids that are of most priority.
And because we are unconsciously seeking out ways to fill these voids in line with what is of most priority, we therefore have what I refer to as a set of internal priorities.
It is also these internal priorities that our unconscious is actively getting the executive centre part of our brain to make manifest. The executive centre in our brain is located in the prefrontal cortex. It’s responsible for organisation, innovation, objectivity and execution of actions; in the fastest, easiest and less costly way. What I mean by less costly is in terms of all the resources that are needed – time, energy, effort.
It is our internal priorities that activates most effectively the executive centre part of our brain. And while our conscious mind processes 50 bits of information per second, our unconscious mind processes 11 million bits of information per second.
Therefore when it comes to wanting your mental health to be high and to operate at your full potential, achieving maximum fulfilment, being more innovative, objective and organised, and achieving your goals in the fastest, easiest and less costly way possible – then it makes sense to be operating from the executive centre part of your brain and developing your connection with your unconscious. And it is even more important to be doing so when faced with challenges to our business or our livelihoods such as in a pandemic situation or a recession.
Yet in my experience, of all the individuals, executives and business owners that I’ve worked with and observed, over 90% of them don’t operate in line with their internal priorities and their executive centre. And this is the main reason they struggle, while others thrive.
For many people that are not operating from their personal internal priorities, it can lead to them feeling a lack of fulfilment or meaning in their life. Or a sense that they’ve lost their mojo. That they can’t find their purpose or focus in life. As a result their mental health suffers significantly.
The reason being is that your unconscious is trying to fill these voids, and if the person is not working in line with their personal internal priorities, then these voids are not being filled.
Your internal priorities also form your unconscious blueprint when it comes to your relationships, your finances, your business, your health – everything in your life. It is these internal priorities that leads us to discover your true purpose and mission in life.
So when we consciously know our internal priorities, and we mould our business or our career around our internal priorities, two main things are happening.
We are filling our personal voids the most, and therefore we are achieving maximum person fulfilment.
And secondly, we are utilising our executive centre the most and beginning to open the connection to our unconscious, and in turn to the superconscious. And with this alignment, it enables us to achieve our vision, our goals and our objectives in the fastest, easiest and less costly way.
When this is done, the results that clients get are amazing. And apart from the personal fulfilment that they get, life becomes easier for them.
So if our internal priorities are operating from an unconscious level, how do we become aware of them so that we can build our business or career around them?
Well, we look for the evidence in our lives.
Through a series of specific questions and by drilling down on the answers, we’re able to find the evidence that is in our life of what our unconscious is trying to fill the most in our lives, both externally and internally.
Externally in terms of our environment, how we spend our time, how we spend our money, how we use our energy, and how we communicate with others.
And also internally. Our thoughts, our dreams and aspirations, our internal energy and also our internal communication – that little voice inside our heads.
When you know your own unique set of internal priorities, and you build your business, your career, your life around them, then that’s when you’re more motivated, more driven to achieve, more inspired to take action. That’s when you get maximum fulfilment in your life and you are expressing your true authentic self. You are bringing yourself, your executive centre, your unconscious and the superconscious more into alignment. You’re more creative, more innovative, and more objective. It’s your true authentic inner leader.
Then when it comes to challenges that show up in your life like recessions, pandemics, redundancies, health issues, financial loss – whatever it is, when you’re operating in this way, then what you see are opportunities while others see failures. And while others see challenges, you see springboards to higher levels.
It’s what makes the difference between the person that struggles, versus the person that is thriving. That’s the best way owners and managers can look after their wellbeing and mental health.